HOW TO REBUILD TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP

“When you fully trust someone without any doubt, you finally get one of the two results: - A person for life or a lesson for life.”

Whether we believe it or not, most of us has encountered the bitter taste of betrayal; at times we experience it from our significant other. But life moves on and we make new relationships or even try to amend the broken ones, though the question remains.” Will I be able to trust my partner again? Will I get hurt again? What if he turns out the same?” Whatever the question keeps lingering on our minds, they converge to a reality that being able to trust someone again is overwhelming. However slow or scary the process may seem, trust can be rebuild.

So, if you are willing to put real efforts in your relationships or repair your crippled relationship, here are some tips:

1. Openly discuss your relationship status:

Build a habit of checking in with each other about how your relationship is proceeding. Learn to discuss their feelings with each other.If you feel something is not going as you had wished, then confront your partner. Feel free to discuss emotions related to insecurity, anxiety, ambivalence, and how would like your connections to proceed. This not only improves trust but also reduce the likelihood of misunderstandings due to untold and unresolved issues.

2. Be reliable, honest and transparent:

Learn to be responsible. Do not let your actions defy your words. Your partner looks up to you when you are reliable. Transparency is a great way to showcase your commitment. Do not let your partner work to get information- offer it freely. Though it may breach your privacy, but hide nothing. People tend to trust when their partner is honest and forthcoming with information.

3. Acknowledge your feelings:

You cannot console your partner unless you console yourself. Learn to acknowledge your own feelings and confess to your partners. If something is bothering you, tell them. Avoiding raising an issue at the right moment causes more discomfort. But don’t be defensive. Own your actions, and let your partner know that you will put more efforts to make things better. Learn to be patient, addressing the problem will lead to the strengthening of bond and gaining mutual trust.

 

“Without communication, there is no relationship. Without respect, there is no love. Without trust, there is no reason to continue.”

4. Communicate:

However bad the situation is, communicate. Even if you feel shattered, still communicate. Your partner is also a human. Don’t expect them to read your mind. Speak up, and create an environment to allow your significant other to open up. Explain your feelings, however trivial it may seem, be it jealousy, insecurity, or even if you are feeling low or worthless. Small tasks like exchanging texts, informing about your daily routine can really help you to build a sense of connection and trust.

5. Respect each other:

Treat each other humbly, nothing can surpass genuine love. Don’t try to control the person; love your partner for who they are. In a healthy relationship; valuing each other’s opinions, listening to each other, being kind, honouring boundaries, compromising, cheering up each other, contributes to respect. Also, respect yourself. Self-respect is the key to build confidence and maintain a healthy relationship by respecting your partner.

“Trust can be rebuilt. It takes time, communication and pure honesty.”

A healthy relationship is based on foundations of trust, understanding and romance. A secure relationship also has physicals impacts such as reduced illness, lower blood pressure, and peace of mind. So, do not violate trust again. Keep the small commitments, be a good listener, give each other personal space, only then you can finally taste the sweetness of unconditional love.

-Susmita Chatterjee